While happily ever after is possible for some, it might not be as simple for others to find. In your 20’s you spend most of your youthful years trying to discover yourself and trying to figure out your space in society. Most of your time is will be spent discovering your passions, desires and setting career goals that will make you financially stable in the future. This may create a challenge for young people who are on a personal growth path as well as trying to build successful relationships. Building a relationship requires time, effort and compatibily, that might be difficult when you have not fully discovered who you are.
Another challenge would be while you are trying to discover yourself, you may find yourself being attracted to someone who is on a healing path and needs to invest more time to themselves, rather than a relationship. On the other hand, you may find someone who has not acknowledged their childhood trauma and may end up distorting your view of love and relationships because hurt people are bound to hurt people . This may not be intentional but is a default of where they are or come from in life. This may result in what we know now as toxic relationships, a burden no one needs, particularly young people in their 20’s .
Another challenge is in your youth you are very mobile. You may come across oppotunities in other cities/countries and this will automatically place you in a long distance relationship. The amount of time, effort and finances required to sustain a long distance relationship, maybe something we (people who are barely making ends meet) can’t afford. We don’t have the coints!
The next obvious challenge for us in our generation, is finding love in the full glare of social media. Unrealistic expectations on relationships are created by people who are trying to emulate what they see on social media, instead of dealing with their reality as it is. Instead of trying to work on building a successful relationship there is the unnescary lifestyle pressure. Not everyone can afford is soft living. There is a tendency of dealing with relationships as props in a movieset, created by people living their lives for social media consumption.
The smart thing for us to do, is trying g to date as often as we can, until we find that comapatible someone, who will not put unnescary and unrealistic expectations on us as young people growing people. We are all on the same boat, just trying to find ourselves and launch a future that we will all be proud of. This will call for us to avoid or resist the dragging culture which puts labels on other peoples dating choices.
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